Covered in care
Here at The Noble Paperie, we want to support women walking through miscarriage, infertility, and other pregnancy-related issues—because we've been there, too. Please use the following library of care to help support yourself or a loved-one during a challenging season. Our hope is that the sources below offer comfort and support to the woman with a Mama's heart: the woman aching for a baby. If you know of a great resource that isn't listed here, we would love to hear about it, so please send it our way.
Articles + Blogs
Some of our favorite supportive links to articles, blogs, lists, and stories of miscarriage, pregnancy-loss, and inspiring stories of motherhood.
Still Standing Magazine
A Letter To the Woman I Was Before Child Loss
Letter to a Parent Grieving the Loss of a Child
New York Times
The Japanese Art of Grieving a Miscarriage
An Unexpected Family Outing
40 Things That Can Really Suck After Losing A Baby
The Emotional Aftermath of Miscarriage
13 Things You Should Know About Grief After Miscarriage or Baby Loss
Still Standing Magazine
Men Don’t Grieve Differently, They Just Grieve
Stories of Motherhood Outside the Norm
Websites + Community
Links to websites and online communities supporting women during seasons of miscarriage, still birth, infant loss, and infertility.
The Morning is a community of hope for women finding joy after miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss. They provide opportunities for community as a reminder that you are not alone in your loss. They also provide resources to help navigate through your loss with hope.
Dr. Jessica Zucker is a Los Angeles-based psychologist and writer specializing in women's reproductive and maternal mental health. Jessica specialized in this field long before experiencing a second trimester miscarriage firsthand. Jessica created and launched the #IHadAMiscarriage campaign with her first New York Times piece in 2014 with the aim of addressing the cultural silence. The @IHadAMiscarriage Instagram account is particularly poignant and Jessica posts applicable stories and images to promote women's reproductive and maternal mental health.
RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association, established in 1974, is dedicated to ensuring that all people challenged in their family building journey reach resolution through being empowered by knowledge, supported by community, united by advocacy, and inspired to act. Resolve exists to provide access to care, advocacy for coverage, access to support & community, access to education, awareness of all family building options.
PALS - Pregnancy After Loss Support
Pregnancy After Loss Support (PALS) , a 501(c)3, is a community support resource for women experiencing the confusing and conflicting emotions of grief mixed with joy, during the journey through pregnancy after loss. They seek to help expectant mothers celebrate their current pregnancy by choosing hope over fear, while still nurturing and honoring the grief over the loss of their deceased child.
Still Standing Magazine
Still Standing is an online community to support women in the face of loss and infertility by showing the world that we are still standing. Holding fast to resilience and hope, their mission is to help women embrace life for everything that it is after experiencing the loss of a child or infertility. The focus of the publication can be broken down into three parts: giving a voice to grief, connecting hearts around the world who have similar life experiences, and becoming a resource for friends, family and medical professionals, to know how to support someone enduring child loss and/or infertility.
LOOM is weaving together uncommon threads and exists to provide education and community to empower people throughout their reproductive, pregnancy and parenting journey. Celebrating inclusivity and choice, LOOM is an entirely new approach to the health education experience. They are curious and dynamic, challenging the conventional and making space for individual instincts and the latest research.
Although LOOM and their classes are based in Los Angeles, California, they do offer some virtual classes and sessions. Perhaps one of the services we find most applicable is that of the Loss Doula: Support for Non-Birth Outcomes. We are thrilled that they offer the following sentiment when talking about their Loss Doula service: "we believe that people deserve access to supportive services for both birth and non-birth outcomes."
It’s Positive! was founded in 2015 with the mission to provide Gospel-centered encouragement, strength, and hope to those struggling with infertility. It's Positive is run by Meredith, a passionate Christ follower, wife, dog-mom, and freelance writer from Chicago—and she is currently battling infertility and PCOS. Meredith is enthusiastic about Jesus and His saving grace in her life. Her prayer is that you find strength, freedom, and encouragement with her through It's Positive!
Podcasts + Tunes
Subscribe to our curated playlist on Spotify! Or, listen to individual episodes and full podcast series that tackle tough topics surrounding miscarriage, loss and grief.
The Noble Paperie on Spotify
We have been hard at work on a Spotify community for The Noble Paperie brand and are proud to share it here! Studies have shown music can be an effective pain reliever and we want to share some of the songs that were poignant during our own loss. We hope this playlist will continue to support women struggling with miscarriage, infertility, and other pregnancy-related issues through music! Check back often as we continue to build community in this space.
Episode 8: Liz on Miscarriage + Motherhood • Released May 14, 2017
hey, girl. is a podcast that unites the voices of phenomenal women near and far. Created with sisterhood and storytelling in mind, author Alex Elle sits down with people who inspire her. From friends to family members and strangers, the hey, girl. guests give us a peek into their stories through candid and intimate conversations.
Goal Digger Podcast
Episode 061: What Miscarriage is Really Like • Released June 28, 2017
The live-workshop style business podcast that is helping thousands redefine success and chase bolder dreams. You can train from the experts on how to dig in, do the work, and tackle your biggest goals along the way. Host Jenna Kutcher takes a time-out from her typical podcast style to share her very personal experience with her own miscarriage.
This American Life
Episode 193: Stories of Loss • Released September 14, 2001
This American Life is a weekly public radio program and podcast. Each week they choose a theme and put together different kinds of stories based on that theme. And while this episode is not solely devoted to miscarriage, the themes of people trying to make sense of life in the wake of loss and grief is profound...and worth a listen. (Side note: this is Kate's all-time-favorite podcast series!)
Managing Miscarriage is a podcast hosted by Melissa Wittman where other women share their stories of loss from miscarriage. Listening to other women share about their experiences through miscarriage can be a therapeutic way to heal when you're in the thick of your loss.
Sisters in Loss
Erica M. McAfee helps black women gain clarity and peace no matter life's challenges, circumstances, and hurts. She loves encouraging those who have experienced a miscarriage, infant loss, or infertility. She wants to empower these women to share their stories, to help inspire others and let them know that they are not alone. Join Erica weekly as she shares stories of grief and pregnancy-loss on her podcast, and through her journey as a special needs mom.
What's Your Grief?
The What’s Your Grief Podcast is hosted by Eleanor Haley and Litsa Williams, two mental health professionals, that seek to leave no stone unturned in demystifying the complicated and sometimes crazy experience of living life after loss. With one digestible topic at a time, Haley and Williams distill topics ranging from grief theory to coping. Although this podcast isn't specific to miscarriage or child loss, the overall themes of moving through the grieving process are super helpful... and the fact that it's hosted by two down-to-earth ladies that make you feel comfortable in your own skin, gives you just one more reason to listen.
Messy Roads of Motherhood
The Messy Roads of Motherhood Podcast is a show featuring women sharing their journey to becoming moms. Host Sarah Aschkenas hopes for the podcast to give women a place to freely share their story, because each and every experience is worth being told. The topics range from infertility, adoption, and loss, to single-motherhood, blended families and everything in between. Nothing is off limits so every guest can speak candidly about their story! Please note that Sarah is currently taking a break from curating new episodes at the moment, but all previous episodes can still be found on their website and iTunes.
The following are a few of our favorite book recommendations. You'll find titles for healing during and after loss, for thriving during modern pregnancy, and even some to support your walk through motherhood. Some of these we have read ourselves, and others come highly recommended from other trusted loss-mamas. We are providing links to Amazon (because where else do people buy books nowadays?), but want to be up-front that we do not receive any compensation for any of the following links—we just think these are great reads and wanted to share. So seek them out: buy, listen, borrow, or even check-out at your local library.
Love Letters to Miscarried Moms:
Written in the Midst of My Grief So That You Will Not Be Alone in Yours
This is the story of Samantha's journey, the same journey that each mother who miscarries begrudgingly embarks on—the excitement of pregnancy, the overwhelming, unfathomable devastation and loss, the grotesque details that no one speaks of, the uphill road toward hope and freedom—and the Savior who walks beside her every step of the way.
Stories of Life, Death and Surviving
An instant bestseller in the UK, Grief Works is a profoundly optimistic and compassionate handbook for anyone suffering a loss—from the expected death of a parent to the sudden death of a child or spouse—as well as a guide for those who want to help their grieving loved ones.
It's OK That You're Not OK
Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand
Megan Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we try to help others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides—as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner—Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, “happy” life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it.
Grieving the Child I Never Knew:
A Devotional for Comfort in the Loss of Your Unborn or Newly Born Child
When the anticipation of your child’s birth turns into the grief of miscarriage, tubal pregnancy, stillbirth, or early infant death, no words on earth can ease your loss. But there is strength and encouragement in the wisdom of others who have been there and found that God’s comfort is real. This devotional collection will help those mothers grieve honestly and well. With seasoned insights and gentle questions, it invites the reader to present her hurts before God, and to receive over time the healing that He alone can – and will – provide.
I Will Carry You:
The Sacred Dance of Grief and Joy
Angie Smith and her husband learned through ultrasound that their fourth daughter had conditions making her “incompatible with life.” Advised to terminate the pregnancy, the Smiths chose instead to carry this child and allow room for a miracle. That miracle came the day they met Audrey Caroline and got the chance to love her for the precious two-and-a-half hours she lived on earth. I Will Carry You tells the powerful story of a parent losing her child, interwoven with the biblical story of Lazarus to help those who mourn to still have hope—to find grace and peace in the sacred dance of grief and joy.
Choosing Hope, Finding Wholeness
Alyssa invites the reader to join her in learning how to respond well to loss, pain, betrayal, disappointment, and other challenges. How do you handle emotional pain? How do you overcome fear of loss or failure? How do you be yourself in a world that wants you to be someone else? How we respond is ultimately who we become. Our tomorrows will be mended, or broken, by how we answer these questions today.
A Journey of Grief, Healing, and Pregnancy after Loss
Alexis Marie Chute
In the forty weeks of her pregnancy, Chute grapples with her strained marriage, shaken faith, and medical diagnosis, with profound results. Glowing with riveting and gorgeous prose, Expecting Sunshine chronicles the anticipation and anxiety of expecting a baby while still grieving for the child that came before―enveloping readers with insightful observations on grief and healing, life and death, and the incredible power of a mother’s love.
The Magic of Motherhood:
The Good Stuff, the Hard Stuff, and Everything In Between
In this book you’ll find heartwarming essays about identity, adoption, body image, miscarriage, friendship, faith, infertility, and more. The Magic of Motherhood is a curated collection of honest stories that weave together the love, joy, and magnificent heartache of motherhood. Motherhood can often feel overwhelming and isolating. You find your feelings swinging between joy and uncertainty, intense love and anxiety, laughter and tears. Through it all, you constantly ask yourself, “Am I the only one who feels this way?” The Magic of Motherhood will reassure you that you’re not alone. Full of encouragement, humor, and wisdom that will speak to you right where you are.
A Modern Guide to Pregnancy, Birth, Early Motherhood - and Trusting Yourself and Your Body
Erica Chidi Cohen
Nurture is the only all-in-one pregnancy and birthing book for modern mothers-to-be and their partners who want a more integrative approach. Author Erica Chidi Cohen has assisted countless births and helped hundreds of families ease into their new roles through her work as a doula. This beautiful, comprehensive and judgement-free pregnancy companion covers everything from the beginning months of pregnancy to the baby's first weeks. It even includes supportive self-care and mindfulness exercises, trimester-specific holistic remedies, nourishing foods and recipes for every month of pregnancy for the modern mother.
Bringing Up Bébé
One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting
When American journalist Pamela Druckerman had a baby in Paris, she didn't aspire to become a "French parent." But she noticed that French children slept through the night by two or three months old. They ate braised leeks. They played by themselves while their parents sipped coffee. And yet French kids were still boisterous, curious, and creative. Why? How? With a notebook stashed in her diaper bag, Druckerman set out to investigate—and wound up sparking a national debate on parenting. Researched over three years and written in her warm, funny voice, Bringing Up Bébé is deeply wise, charmingly told, and destined to become a classic resource for American parents.
Gifts + Mementos
The following are our favorite links for gifts and mementos to support loss-mamas and mamas in waiting. Whether you're a loss-mama yourself looking for a special item of remembrance, or a friend or family member looking to send comfort their way, we are hoping the below options will help you spread love during a time when they are most in need of your support.
A Thread Runs Thru It
Custom, Handmade, Keepsakes and Memorial Gifts
Sarah began sculpting remembrance keepsakes and memorial ornaments after the loss of her son Logan Forrest. She now sculpts ornaments for grieving parents around the world who have experienced miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS, neonatal loss, pregnancy loss and infant loss. Sarah says that creating these keepsakes for other loss-mamas has helped her to heal from her own loss.
Monthly Curated Subscription Boxes
Over one, six, twelve, or more months, Hopebox provides a way to show loved ones you're there and you're not going anywhere. The beautiful handmade gifts inside are personalized with a heartfelt note of caring and concern specific to the receiver's unique situation. Flowers wither, meals spoil, but the memory of receiving a Hopebox lasts a lifetime.
Greeting Cards, Prints and Apparel to Support Women Through Miscarriage
In 2015, Dr. Zucker created a line of pregnancy loss cards with the aim of filling a gaping hole in the cultural conversation and in the marketplace. Jessica's goal with this collection is to help people have the tools to connect after loss, providing the antidote to "I just don't know what to say".
Joy Comes In The Morning:
Coloring Through Infant Loss & Miscarriage
A Coloring Book for Women Experiencing Miscarriage, Still Birth, or Infant Loss
If you have experienced a miscarriage, still birth, or infant loss— this coloring book is for you! It also makes a thoughtful gift for a friend going through the devastating loss of a baby. It is a beautiful collection of over 25 inspiring pages designed by artists from Alaska to Hawaii, from East Coast to West! The pages include a variety of styles, ink drawings, and digital creations. Many of the artists have experienced miscarriage or infant loss, and on the back of each page they share encouragement for the grieving heart. It's also available on Amazon Prime!
Thoughtfully Hand-Curated Small Batch Gift Boxes Designed to Nourish a Heart After Loss.
Each and every laurelbox is presented with their premium packaging and personal touches. During checkout, you have the option to include a gift message that they will hand-write on your choice of a complimentary card. Not sure what to say in your card? These two phrases are gentle and sensitive. "We pray that this gift nourishes your heart. I am so sorry for your loss." They also have a beautifully curated blog called Motherhood Rewritten which shares stories to support women feeling excluded on Mother’s Day.
Lemons & Confetti
Gift Boxes for Women Going Through Tough Stuff
Lemons and Confetti was formed with a simple goal in mind: to create meaningful and desirable gifts for women who are going through tough stuff. Their carefully thought-out gift themes are designed to meet a variety of needs. Lemons and Confetti also buys locally (woot!) and from other female-owned businesses as often as possible (double-woot!). Gift themes are revolving, but they will always offer empathy focused boxes as well as celebratory themes.
Lullaby of Hope
Curated Gift Boxes for Women Journeying Through Infertility, Pregnancy, or Infant Loss
Lullaby of Hope believes that in the midst of barrenness and grief Jesus is a woman's constant comfort. They are choosing to share what they have been given through, with their comforting, curated gift boxes. Their hope is to point women to Jesus and empower them to share their story too.
Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep
Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep trains, educates, and mobilizes professional quality photographers to provide beautiful heirloom portraits to families facing the untimely death of an infant. They believe these images serve as an important step in the family's healing process by honoring the child's legacy: that in the midst of barrenness and grief Jesus was their constant comfort. They have gifted more than 40,000 complementary portrait sessions since 2005 and have approximately 1,500 active photographers, reaching every state in the United States! They have also been present in 40 countries worldwide. Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep also host a Remembrance Walk to remember and honor babies gone too soon, and to raise awareness of pregnancy and infant loss.
The Milky Mudra
The Milky Mudra is based on a concept of creating a gesture of remembrance, using your very own breast milk, preserving it and setting it in resin. Because they never use any additives or coloring, the stone that is created is purely your own milk, preserved perfectly to hold onto the memories that fade with life's journeys. Each piece is created with love and attention to detail. The Milky Mudra works to empower women and children to be proud of who they are and how they got there by remembering each step along the way. These are truly beautiful, one-of-a-kind pieces that will honor any loss-mama and babe in the most unique way.
Keepsake Jewelry and Grief Community
Sharing Solace is a community of grievers for grievers. They know how debilitating and isolating grief can be, and want to help people find the meaning and strength to get through the difficulties of life. Sharing Solace is here to help you walk along your unique grief path, by providing a community of grievers and also offering unique keepsake tokens to support women walking through loss.
With Love, Genesis & Joy
Greeting Cards Sent to Women Who Have Suffered Loss, and to Honor Their Babies
After experiencing a miscarriage herself in 2015, Krystal founded her ministry With Love, Genesis & Joy. Named after her two babies - one in heaven and one on earth - Krystal set out with a simple idea in mind: to reach loss moms through handwritten cards. All cards are specifically written just for the recipient, using a variety of cards, but they are always handmade, hand-painted, or hand-lettered in order to stay true to what this ministry is about. Her core belief is highlighted so beautifully in her ministry: "From one loss mom to another: the number of physical babies you have doesn't make you a mom; it's the number of babies you hold in your heart."
One Final Note From The Noble Paperie
We want to be transparent with our community about the above recommendations. We truly believe in, love, and support each and every one of the recommendations we have provided above. We have cultivated relationships with several of the companies and ministries listed here, although we want to be completely up front with the fact that we DO NOT receive any compensation, kick-backs, or additional items in return for posting the above links. Sharing these resources ties back to our core mission of supporting women walking through seasons of miscarriage, infertility, and other pregnancy-related issues. Above all, we want to spread awareness, support, and inspire a community of mamas grieving their children, and those who are in waiting. We see you Mamas. We have been there. And we hope that these resources can be a stepping stone in your path through your grief. We are here to support and encourage you on your journey through motherhood.