GUEST SPOTLIGHT: KRYSTALLE WHEELER
I’m Krystalle Wheeler and I live in Kansas City with my husband, our three children, and no pets… because I have enough people to clean up after! I founded Lullaby of Hope after I journeyed through a miscarriage and a stillbirth in 2012. At that time, I found there were little to no resources to comfort women like me, and that broke my heart. So, I started gathering meaningful items to give as a gift to help equip women in their healing process. What began as something small, has now grown into a full fledged team (or more like a family!) of women lovingly sending out these gifts.
Q. 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage and 1 in 8 couples are walking through infertility. With so many women being affected by these issues we believe there is power in the story. What was the turning point for you to feel safe enough to share your own journey?
A. My miscarriage left me wounded and unable to speak up to anyone outside my circle. Later that same year, I then had a stillbirth. When we were given our daughter's diagnosis, I started a blog mainly for me to process my own feelings… but it became a platform for me to share the rollercoaster of emotions, and also the goodness of God, as I journeyed a difficult season.
Q. Everyone grieves differently. What was one thing that helped you to heal and process your grief?
A. I loved—and still do!—to journal. I found writing out my thoughts, angst, and prayers were powerful. I also chose to dig deeper into the scriptures, pray, and ask God to reveal to me what He wanted me to learn.
Q. Was there ever a time someone said something insensitive to you about your pregnancy, pregnancy-loss, or infertility? Knowing what you know now, how would you respond?
A. Absolutely! We lost our daughter on December 6th and that Christmas, a family member gave me a book about how the food we eat is killing our bodies. It was really cruel. I would respond now the same way I did then—I threw the book in the trash and allowed myself time to heal before I took the opportunity to address my hurt with that extended family member.
Q. We are firm believers that every woman who opens her heart to have children is a mother. What is your favorite thing about motherhood? And what is the most difficult in motherhood?
A. I would say that my biggest take-away from losing babies and then parenting my children earthside, is that each life is an absolute miracle. From my work with Lullaby of Hope and seeing women deal with losses daily, it’s sometimes hard to believe that healthy pregnancies and healthy babies can exist.
Q. How are you using your gifts to lift others up who are walking through pregnancy-loss, infertility, or other pregnancy-related issues?
A. I share my story to let other women know that they aren't alone, that they are loved and that they can get through this (not OVER it!) with God's help.
Q. Grief and loss, especially with miscarriage, infertility, and pregnancy-loss, can feel very isolating. What is something you would say to yourself in the first days after your loss?
A. Let the tears fall. Lean into the pain, it's okay to be upset and Jesus welcomes our honesty.
Do you know a mama walking through infertility or pregnancy/infant loss?
Head on over to Lullaby of Hope to view their curated gift boxes which help bring comfort, encouragement and healing to those working through these experiences.
There is power in the story.
Thank you for allowing us to share a little bit about Krystalle, her background, experiences, and story. We want to continue to support our community while lifting others up. Did you enjoy this? Do you know a mama who would be a good fit for a Guest Spotlight with us? Feel free to comment here, or drop us a line at firstname.lastname@example.org. We would love to hear what you think!